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A Few years ago, I started this blog to document a few main stories in my life.

One of those stories was our FIRST adoption story. Not a month goes by that Mark and I aren’t contacted by a couple interested in adoption wanting to ask us questions about the timeline, process, and fundraising.

We always send them my old blog post so they know our story and then get together for follow up conversation and questions. The farther we have gotten from Mercy’s adoption the older I realize that blog post is. No two-adoption stories are alike and I thought it would be better to have our two stories both online so they can be compared. There are also things we learned this second time that I realized I didn’t say in the first post.

This might go without saying, but I just want to say that we love adoption and are so blessed that we can say that it is part of our family’s story. Our kids have adopted first cousins on both sides of the family so we have seen it play out at different ages and in different contexts. We love talking to couples and answering questions and want to help see as many adoptions happen as possible.

With that in mind, here is our story….


Our timeline wasn’t as draw out as last time because we new we would do our adoption through the same specific agency and we knew the road ahead. We began the paperwork to work toward our second adoption in August of 2014. We had to renew our home study, which meant me had to start all the paper work over. I feel like most of the paper work aspect (names, biography, family history) is similar across the board to other agencies. One of the major differences is the way the agency goes about the adoption/foster classes required. Some agencies have you attend a class, some are book related, and ours was online articles with a test following each article. I would say that this is the most time consuming part of a home study. I spent about 2.5 hours /4 nights a week working on reading the material and then taking a test. Mark would also read and take tests with me many nights.

In addition to the online work, there are other things like a fire inspection, physicals, and gathering financial information that will take some time as well. The paperwork for us took about six weeks to complete. Mind you this was our second time through a home study so we were able to work pretty fast on the familiar parts and even adapt some typed documents we saved from round one. Mark and I split up the paperwork “duties” so that we could work faster. Six weeks is very fast, but it went fast because we prioritized it over many other things in our life at the time, and we really wanted to get the matching started and that can’t start till the paper work is done. This may take some families months to complete depending on the time you have to give.

After the paperwork is done and right before the matching starts, you will need to make “life books”. Your agency will use these books to show birth-moms who are choosing a family. We always Googled coupons to Shutterfly or other online book companies to find the best deal. Our agency required 20 books. With a coupon this still ran us about $270.00. This book takes a little bit of time to lay out the pictures and caption them all.

In the middle of September we were ready to match with a birth-mom. This can be done through and email or phone call that a birth-mom is viewing your book. We were emailed that our birth-mom wanted to set up a meeting with us. We were given the facts about her life situation and what was going on. In October of 2014 we had our first meeting with our birth-mom and our social worker. We talked about our lives and tried our best to get to know each other. Right after this meeting we were officially matched with our birth-mom. We met with her again at Christmas to learn more about each other without our social worker.

Some birth-moms will ask you to attend their doctor’s appointments. We did not attend the appointments but texted back and forth about each appointment. At this point the process and communication is between you and the birth-mom. Your social worker or agency director will not usually see you until the birth of the baby. Our daughter arrived in February of 2015.

Our birth-mom let us know the night before that she was getting induced the next morning, so we could meet her at the hospital. We went to her room to visit for a while, but then waited in the lobby till the baby was born. We went to the nursery right away to meet our baby girl. This part of the story is different for everyone depending on the wishes of the birth-mom. You may or may not have a separate room.

Our birth-mom discharged when she was medically allowed, and we stayed with Zion for a couple more days. It is your job after the birth to finish up some important paperwork concerning social security, birth certificate, Medicaid, and contacting your adoption lawyer to get a date for the official adoption six months later.

For six months following the birth, your social worker will stop by once a month. They answer any questions you may have. These meeting are not very long.

At the six-month mark you will have a court date to make the adoption official. This court appearance is in the county your agency resides in. Once you have your official day in court, your baby gets to take your name! Don’t forget to change their name on their birth certificate, social security card, and insurance!

I tell people all the time that choosing the right agency is the key. Do your research and talk to people who have adopted through the agency you are looking at. One of the most important things (I think) is asking on average how many babies they are placing a year. This will give you a good idea on their efficiency and possible wait time for you. We have used the same agency for both our adoptions, and I would love to shout them out because they deserve it. We cannot say enough about Adoption Link in Yellow Springs, Ohio! They are efficient and they communicate very well. We have never felt in the dark or confused about our process. Our adoption attorney is Mike Voorhees from Cincinnati. We love Mike and he has been awesome walking us through legal issues and hurdles with our second adoption.

The financial side of adoption is always the most intimidating. Its good to remind yourself that every penny you have in the first place is because of God’s provision and this money will be no different. Fund raising is about leveraging opportunities that will give you the greatest return.

Our fundraising was the brainchild of my husband Mark. There are so many options out there. Our biggest advice is to look at the fundraisers and see which one brings the most return. Some fundraisers can take a high percentage and the effort it takes to put them on may not be the best use of your time. We loved GoFundMe. It was our most successful one. We just did our online fundraiser 18 months ago now and the climate of crowd sourcing has changed, but it can still be a great resource. Take advantage of social media and the ways that it connects you to people all over the world.

On top of GoFundMe, we also did a 5k race, which did ok. We decided to do it too late and weren’t able to capitalize on the running community. Mark still says he could do it again and with what he learned could raise thousands for someone. We also saved money on our own which I mentioned last time. There is no substitute for picking up part time work or another income stream when it comes to adoption. Almost everyone we have ever talked to has done this in some way.

I want to stop again and say that every adoption is different from each other. Every birth-mom and birth-father are different. The relationship between every birth-mom and adoptive family is different…and it’s ok! I want this blog to be an encouragement and an example but you should never compare your situation, or fundraising, or family to anyone else’s. God will write your story exactly as He wants it to be.

When most people want to “talk” about adoption, they often have many questions about money. Adoption is not cheap and so that will be a huge piece of the process. We love to be open about our adoption costs. Mercy’s adoption in total was about 21,000 dollars, and Zion’s adoption costs have been about 25,000 dollars.


Here’s a breakdown.

Homestudy – $1,850

Agency fees – $21,140

Additional Legal Fees – $1,000

Family Look books – $270

Total – $24,260


There’s much more I could write and I am sure I left some things out and didn’t say others perfect. Forgive me 🙂 The goal of this is just to let you know that adoption is a great thing AND encourage you that if God has put it on your heart you can walk toward it knowing that you are not alone.


Pit or Peace is my little saying when I have a decision to make. We have all asked “Is this God’s will or plan for my life?”

My disclaimer is that I am not a theologian nor do I have any formal bible training. This is my opinion based on my own experiences and reading what the Bible says about making decisions.

Someone told me that every decision is a spiritual decision. The older I get and the more responsibility I have in all areas, I can see that every decision I make affects my relationship with God good or bad.

God already knows the plan for my life. I need to be humble enough to ask him to always be leading me down the path he has for me and not the path I want to choose for myself.

When I have a decision to make I almost always have a gut feeling from the beginning. I would like to think my gut feeling is the Holy Spirit already working in me.

Before I make a decision I pray about the decision, read the bible, and seek counsel from people I respect with opinions I value.  During this process of figuring out what God is asking of me I go through a few verses that help me decide if my choice will lead me to pit or peace.

If PEACE then… If PIT then…
Open doors- I see God answer prayer and open doors when I am seeking Him and asking for wisdom– Jeremiah 29:11-13a; James 1:5 Feel anxious and unsettled – The Holy Spirit is giving me that “pit” feeling that something isn’t right- Philippians 4:6: John 14:17
Confidence- Asking God with confidence to make it obvious to me – 1 John 5:14; Proverbs 3:5-6; Hebrews 4:16; Psalm 32:8 Disorder in my thought process- When I try and work out the details in my head I just get more confused-  1 Corinthians 14:33; James 3:16
Peace –God is a God of peace and will not confuse me. If something is of God I will feel peace above all else Philippians 4:5b-7; Proverbs 3:5-6; Psalm 4:8 When family/friends whose opinion I trust and value are telling me that this may not be a wise decision – Proverbs 15:22


Sometimes God’s will and plan for our lives is not the most popular plan among our friends, or the most glamorous, and God’s will is usually not the easy decision. But, when we know that God has called us to something it leaves us with PEACE regardless of the circumstances around us. I have also realized that most of the things God has asked me to do in me life require stepping out on FAITH.

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.

Jeremiah 29:11-13a For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. 12 In those days when you pray, I will listen. 13 If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. 14 I will be found by you,” says the Lord.


I have a great mom. She is a super- servant. She is always willing to do things for other people. This is a beautiful trait. But, while growing up I took advantage of my super-servant mom and I became real lazy. I didn’t pin point my problem till a few years ago. I have wondered for  years why I can’t seem to put something where it belongs or why I don’t  have the urge to be orderly. It goes back to my elementary/middle school years where my sister and I would let our room get so messy my mom would clean it for us to perfection because she couldn’t take it anymore. I got used to this and just became very disorganized and nothing was ever in order for me-laziness. My disorderly spirit still rages within me. I have to tell myself everyday to go put something away, fold my clothes, and not leave piles in my closet. I want to so bad….just leave a mess everywhere.

I have been studying through the Beth Moore James study and she just touched on being orderly in my lesson this week. It totally resonated with me! There are a few verses in the Bible that talk about being self- controlled, orderly, and disciplined. Titus 1:8 says “ Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self- controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.”

Ouch! Sometimes, I don’t think of myself as living in sin or that I am doing something God may not be pleased with when it comes to folding my clothes right away, doing the dishes, putting toys away, but apparently God values a disciplined heart. I have worked really hard over the last year to take this serious and to discipline myself in my daily tasks and all the way down to keeping my van clean. 1 Corinthians 14:33a says “ For God is not a God of disorder but of peace”.

I have to admit that after living in a crazy messy room as a kid, I really enjoy my clean house now even though I have to talk myself into cleaning it everyday! Even if an organized closet is a very small thing- I know God is asking me to value self-control and discipline even in the small things. Is God asking you to clean your room too?


In the short time that we have been publicly linked to adoption we have had several people email, call, or ask us questions about the details of our adoption process.. Recently it has been more and more frequent and I have realized the desire for information from others. We believe in adoption and honestly want to see as many people get to adopt as possible, so I thought I would make a blog post and share our story. These are the details including the honest financial truth.  I have made a timeline that may help answer some of your questions. From the first initial meeting to explain the process and bringing Mercy home from the hospital was almost four years to the day. Much of this wait was saving the money to actually begin the official process.

-Ocotber 2008- we met with a private adoption attorney who walked us through the             independent adoption process and told us the cost up front. We did this early so that we could get a savings plan in place. We knew we would still have one more biological child which turned out to be Canaan (11/24/09), but wanted to do our homework early.

–       October 2008 thru February 2010 we saved enough to begin the process

–       February 2010- signed papers with Home-study Services of Ohio. They are out of Canton, Ohio and travel all over the state.

–       April 2010- finished all our home study meetings and classes and can now officially accept a baby. Our homes study has a two-year expiration date.

–       August 2011- we did a private Facebook fundraiser for our adoption which eventually would raise $7,000.

–       July 2012- we came to a point where we realized that trying to adopt independent (on our own) through networking was very difficult and we needed to pick a public agency soon.

–       August 2012- met with a family that has adopted twice through Adoption Link and highly recommended them. We were able to see their profile books and hear first hand stories of their experience.

–       August 2012- transferred our home study paperwork to Adoption Link and made profile books. This took three weeks to complete.

–       August 2012- within days of signing with Adoption Link we received multiple calls and emails for babies that needed homes

–       September 2012- we were picked by two different expectant moms and interviewed with both.  Neither was a match for us.

–       October 29, 2012- we received a call from our agency director that a baby girl was born the night (28th) before and her birth mom picked our family on the 29th. We were asked to come to the hospital in Dayton immediately to pick her up. We were in shock because we had never met this birth-mom or new she was a possibility.

–       October 29th– 30th– went to Dayton and picked Mercy up and brought her home from the hospital

–       November 2012-May 2013- we have a social worker come to our house once a month to check in

–       January 2013- we hired a lawyer from Cincinnati to handle our finalization paperwork

–       May 2013- we will be going to the Greene County Courthouse to finalize our adoption

There are a few tips that may help if your are looking to adopt:

1)    Pick an agency that is highly recommended

2)    Call or email people listed by the agency as references

3)    Ask a lot of questions

One of the biggest obstacles in adoption is the money. The first question I asked was “how much is it going to cost?” To be honest, it is expensive, You should  have a plan in place and know how you are going to pay for the adoption when it happens. Sometimes, like in our case it happened without warning and we needed to be ready. We decided that adoption was our number one saving priority so we did a fundraiser and Mark picked up some side projects over the last four years to pay/save for Mercy’s adoption, God is good, and when we got the call to come get Mercy we had the exact amount of money we needed.  Here is a cost breakdown of our expenses:

Home Study Services of Ohio- (which includes the back ground checks)-   $1300

Adoption Link fee schedule-                                                                        $ 16,290

Legal Fees to finalize                                                                                    $1200

Total                                                                                                             $ 18,790


I know this post may not have answered all your questions, but I hope it gave some direction and maybe you want to check out the agencies we went through. If you have more specific questions nothing is off limits and we want to be an open book book to encourage your adoption.  You can Facebook me (facebook.com/kristinartrip), email me at kristinartrip(at)gmail.com or tweet at me @kristinartrip if you want to know more.


I am the first to admit that I am a pessimist and I have to fight hard to overcome a complaining spirit about a lot of things.  I find myself in a very interesting position in my life right now with many things changing in a few short months, a new baby at home and a lot of little ones depending on me, and sometimes I like to think of myself as one of the Israelites wandering in the desert yelling at Moses. This isn’t a good thing. I am not proud of admitting this, but it’s the truth and it’s where I’m at.  Lets go back to Israel’s days in the desert and I will show you what I am talking about:

Exodus 16:1-3 The whole Israelite community set out from Elim and came to the Desert of Sin, which is between Elim and Sinai, on the fifteenth day of the second month after they had come out of Egypt. In the desert the whole community grumbled against Moses and Aaron. The Israelites said to them, “If only we had died by the Lord’s hand in Egypt! There we sat around pots of meat and ate all the food we wanted, but you have brought us out into this desert to starve this entire assembly to death.”

You see, they had such “me” centered attitudes that they couldn’t even be thankful that they were rescued out of slavery and that God was divinely leading and protecting them in the desert. They finally complained to the point that I believe they began to fantasize about sitting around those pots of meat and stuffing their bellies in the midst of this terrible harsh reality they were actually living.

Sometimes I act like that. I am sitting around fantasizing about my former life and the “pots of meat” I once had. I remember the days before kids when I had more spare time or didn’t have spit up on my shirt by 8 am.  I remember the days when I could go to sleep and not get up once until I wanted to. There are times I miss Powell and living close to the zoo and the indoor playplace or dear friends. I miss being closer to certain stores and malls. I remember the days of being able to as my husband put in his last blog post “ride in someone else’s wake”.

Satan uses those things to attack me at my weakest moments and I have to remind myself that those are not my calling. We moved to Hilliard because we knew that lives need changed here. People need to meet Jesus.

I have on many days asked God why he took away my “pots of meat” and gave me Manna to work with here in Hilliard. I am a nobody here. Our church is brand new and no one knows we’re here yet.

So my confession is that I need to remember that what God has before me is going to be way better that the “pots of meat” I once knew. God didn’t bring me to Hilliard to be isolated, alone, and wandering. He brought me here because he is going to do something new in me and through Movement Church.

Isaiah 43:19- See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.